We offer clinical services to individuals, couples, and families in distress. We addition, we offer couple therapy intensives for those wanting to work in a more concentrated time frame.
Making an appointment for couple therapy is a first step towards change because it means that each partner has a desire for something to be different and a willingness to do something about it. The first meeting is an opportunity to get to know one another and for us to learn enough about you to have some ideas about how we might be helpful.
Following the first session, we like to have an individual meeting with each person so that we can get some personal and family history. Then by the next couples session, we feel a much fuller sense of each of you and how we can help.
We are both trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and use it as a road map for how we approach couples therapy. This means that first we will be exploring the cycle of conflict, or negative patterns that you get caught in so that you can learn new, more effective ways to make contact with one another. Then we will focus on strengthening the bond between you to enhance your connection and solidify a sense of safety in the relationship.
For those who like to prepare in advance, we suggest that couples read the book called Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson as a companion to the treatment.
Couple Therapy Intensive
Sometimes there is just no time to waste. For couples in crisis or couples just wanting to get down to work in a concentrated time frame, we offer several options for more intensive couples therapy.
Depending on your time availability, the issues you are dealing with, and your financial resources, you may opt to do anywhere from a one day (5-6 hours), to a one, two, or “two day plus” intensive.
All one-day intensives are offered on select Fridays. Please contact us for availability.
Here is a sample schedule for the one-day intensive:
- Friday morning 9:00-10:30 Introductory couples session, followed by two one-hour individual sessions.
- Friday 12:30-2 Lunch on your own
- Friday 2-4 or 4:30pm Couples therapy follow-up session
Here is a sample schedule for the 2-day plus intensive:
- Thursday evening 7:30-9pm Introductory couples session
- Friday morning 9:30-12: Two individual sessions
- Friday 12-1:30 Lunch on your own
- Friday afternoon 1:30-4:30 Couples follow-up session
- Saturday morning 9:30-12 Couples session
- Saturday afternoon 2-4 or 4:30 Final couples session
What would we hope to accomplish in this accelerated time frame?
The right length couples intensive can be determined according to your availability, financial resources, and level of urgency. Keep in mind that most couples therapy is conducted for approximately an hour a week, so even a one day retreat offers a way to get through what would otherwise take a month’s time.
The first 90 minutes is your opportunity to talk about your relationship, both the ways you feel stuck now in the present as well each of your views about what brought you together. As you tell your story and share the pain of what has gone wrong, we will be tracking the relational dance between you and referencing what we now know as the science of love relationships to help you make sense of your experience.
We follow this initial meeting with two one-hour individual sessions so that we can learn a little about each of your histories and get a sense of your individual concerns about the relationship in a more unedited way.
The following couples session we come together to really dig into the first stage of treatment, the de-escalation of the conflict cycle. What this means is that we try to understand the relationship pattern that continues to undermine your connection, specifically by exploring what emotions are driving the behaviors that pull you apart.
If we have the next day or day and a half to continue our work, we will take steps towards finding new ways to strengthen the bond between you by expressing the fears of closeness that get in the way, and voicing each of your needs with a newly emerging vulnerability.
A couples intensive offers a way to jump in and really get a sense of what can be done to change the course of a relationship that seems to be in trouble. It is often advisable to follow up your intensive experience with an ongoing couples therapy, as there is a need to integrate the learning and skills over time. If you are coming from a distance and cannot find a skilled therapist in your home location, we will discuss options as we wrap up our time together.
What are the fees and how is the payment made?
The cost for a six-hour one-day intensive is $1200, while the cost for the two plus day intensive is $2600. A pre-screening interview by phone with both members of the couple on the line is conducted prior to making the commitment or paying a deposit. Payments can be made by check or credit card. A deposit of 50% is required to hold the date with the balance due the day prior to meeting. We also offer intensives as a husband wife team. Depending on your presentation during the pre-screening, we may prefer to work with you as a team. Fees will be discussed on a case by case basis.
We offer individual psychotherapy to treat a variety of issues and problems ranging from adjustment and life transitions issues, to anxiety disorders, depression, substance abuse, relationship concerns and trauma.
The treatment we provide is always viewed in the context of the family system. Both Nancy and Jack offer EMDR and hypnosis as treatment modalities when deemed appropriate.
Families are complicated to figure out from the inside, so getting help to sort out patterns that are causing distress to one or more members can be a really important step towards getting unstuck. If a child is involved, we prefer to start by meeting the parents to get a sense of what is going on before we meet all together.
For those families seeking help who have older teens or if all family members are adults, we would meet all together from the beginning. After one to two meetings, we would be able to offer a clear idea as to how we could best be helpful, possibly meeting with individuals or dyads interspersed with the family meetings.