When: December 3-4, 2022; Saturday 9am-5pm and Sunday 10am-4pm
Where: Smith College Conference Center, 51 College Lane, Northampton, MA
Instructor: Nancy Knudsen, LMFT and Michael Moran, LCSW, CST
Rates: Early Bird Fee until 11/12/22; Full – $695, Early Bird – $625

Why is it so hard to reach and maintain the flow of authentic sexual connection with our intimate partner over time? How is it that our signals get distorted and misunderstood? What is behind all that avoidance that one or both of us has fallen into? How can we enhance what has become too predictable a routine?

This workshop is designed for couples who have either done the Hold Me Tight® Program or worked with a therapist using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model and have some familiarity with their cycle of relationship distress.  We will use variations of the Hold Me Tight® conversations to explore how the emotional obstacles to closeness get in the way of our sending clear signals about our fears and longings for physical and sexual intimacy. We will use a variety of modalities to gain understanding of what we and our partners truly long for. In addition, we will review state of the art research about the range of sexual experience in committed relationships and what can be done to overcome barriers towards achieving greater sexual satisfaction. This will be an in-person event. Full vaccinations are required to participate. See Smith College’s COVID-19 Protection Protocol.

Couples will:

  • Learn about the blocks to intimacy and physical closeness
  • Explore negative cycles related to sexual intimacy and touch
  • Hear about state of the art research on sexuality in committed relationships
  • Learn more about each partner’s desire and how to re-start or enhance this important bond
  • Discover new ways of breathing life into your sexual connection

Open to couples of all backgrounds and persuasions.

All conversations will take place between partners with assistance from our highly qualified roving therapists as needed. In a weekend format, this couples workshop serves as a relationship retreat. Homework will be given on Saturday night, so it is optimal for couples to plan to spend time together without distractions.

Taking place at the scenic Smith College Conference Center, participants will have access to walks around campus during the breaks. Lunch is available for purchase at the Smith College Student Center or in downtown Northampton.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark of Dr. Sue Johnson.



Nancy Knudsen, LMFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Northampton, MA with over 35 years experience in the field. She has used a family systems orientation over the years to work with individuals, couples, and families on a wide range of issues. Over the past 10 years, Nancy’s primary clinical modality has been Emotionally Focused Therapy. She first became a certified EFT therapist in 2011, then a certified EFT Supervisor in 2014, and served two years as the Assistant Director of the New England EFT Community. Nancy has taught a number of workshops on EFT for professionals. Historically, her areas of professional interest have been structural family systems, Bowen family systems theory, trauma, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Nancy has led a number of Hold Me Tight® workshops and enjoys being able to help couples strengthen their relationships in this safe group setting.

Michael Moran, LCSW, CST is a Certified EFT Couples Therapist and Supervisor as well as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in New York, NY where he specializes his practice at the intersection of relational and sexual issues. He is also an adjunct professor at Rutgers University and travels the country training mental health professionals on how to effectively address sexual issues in couples therapy. Contact Michael here.

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