When: September 12-13, 2020, Saturday 9am-5pm and Sunday 10am-4pm
Where: Smith College Conference Center, 51 College Lane, Northampton, MA
Instructor: Nancy Knudsen, LMFT
Rates: Early Bird Fee until 8/22: $595; Regular Fee: $650

This event has been CANCELLED due to COVID-19, to be rescheduled once in-person events can be held safely.

Why is it so hard to reach and maintain the flow of authentic sexual connection with our intimate partner over time? How is it that our signals get distorted and misunderstood? What is behind all that avoidance that one or both of us has fallen into? How can we enhance what has become too predictable a routine?

This workshop is designed for couples who have either done the Hold Me Tight® Program or worked with a therapist using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model and have some familiarity with their cycle of relationship distress.  We will use variations of the Hold Me Tight® conversations to explore how the emotional obstacles to closeness get in the way of our sending clear signals about our fears and longings for physical and sexual intimacy. We will use a variety of modalities to gain understanding of what we and our partners truly long for. In addition, we will review state of the art research about the range of sexual experience in committed relationships and what can be done to overcome barriers towards achieving greater sexual satisfaction.

Couples will:

  • Learn about the blocks to intimacy and physical closeness
  • Explore negative cycles related to sexual intimacy and touch
  • Hear about state of the art research on sexuality in committed relationships
  • Learn more about each partner’s desire and how to re-start or enhance this important bond
  • Discover new ways of breathing life into your sexual connection

Open to couples of all backgrounds and persuasions.

All conversations will take place between partners with assistance from our highly qualified roving therapists as needed. In a weekend format, this couples workshop serves as a relationship retreat. Homework will be given on Saturday night, so it is optimal for couples to plan to spend time together without distractions.

Taking place at the scenic Smith College Conference Center, participants will have access to walks around campus during the breaks. Lunch is available for purchase at the Smith College Student Center or in downtown Northampton.

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Nancy Knudsen, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist with 30 years experience and is a certified therapist and supervisor in Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples. Nancy has led a number of Hold Me Tight® workshops and enjoys being able to help couples strengthen their relationships in this safe group setting.

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