When: Friday & Saturday, October 23 & 24, 2020 9am-5pm
Where: Smith College Conference Center, 49 College Lane, Northampton, MA
Instructor: George Faller, MS, LMFT
Level: Intermediate, for EFT Clinicians
Rates: Super Early Bird for NEEFT Members (until 5/15) – $375; Early Bird (until 9/11) – $400; Full Rate (after 9/11) – $450; Student Rates available upon request
CE’s: 12 CE’s pending for LMFT’s, LICSW’s, LMHC’s, and Lic. Psychologists

Co-Sponsored by the Relationship Counseling Center

Do escalated couples make you want to quit being a therapist? Join us as we explore those moments of greatest difficulty for couples, from still-face to high reactivity to despair and rage. Learn how to keep your focus and go deeper in the face of reactivity. We’ll explore, demonstrate, practice and integrate in an interactive, experiential way. Through a combination of lecture, videotaped session samples, and exercises, participants will learn to better conceptualize EFT and to help couples recognize and deescalate problematic cycles of interaction. Participants will also learn to help couples create or restore the emotional bond between them once the negative cycle—and the attachment needs that drive it—has been understood.

Participants will be able to:

  1. Identify the key assumptions of attachment theory as it applies to adult relationships
  2. Identify the assumptions, stages, and steps of EFT, as well as key change events
  3. Articulate key interventions that help clients to reprocess key emotional responses and reduce reactivity
  4. Identify common therapeutic impasses in EFT and how to address them, and implement EFT interventions in clinical exercises and case examples
  5. Name the different structural elements/parts of the cycle
  6. Describe the process model of emotion as defined by Magda Arnold

Participants will also be able to:

  1. Describe 3 underlying emotions that withdrawers feel
  2. Describe 3 underlying emotions that pursuers feel
  3. Define the EFT clinical skills associated with de-escalation
  4. Describe the function of protective strategies that create negative cycles
  5. Identify the positive cycle of responsiveness to replace the escalated, negative cycle


Day One
9-10:30 Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT
10:30-10:45 Break
10:45-12:30 Understanding the Function of Matching Affect
12:30-1:30 Lunch
1:30-2:45 Taking Charge of Session
2:45-3:00 Break
3:00-4:30 Keeping your Focus with Interruptions

Day Two
9:00-10:30 Going Deeper with Withdrawers
10:30-10:45 Break
10:45-12:30 Going Deeper with Pursuers
12:30-1:30 Lunch
1:30-2:45 Restructuring Emotional Bonds
2:45-3:00 Break
3:00-4:30 Celebrating the Process of Change – Tying It All Together



George Faller, MS, LMFT is a retired Lieutenant of the NYC Fire Department, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New York and Connecticut and an Approved Supervisor for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. He is the founder and President of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). As an EFT Trainer, George teaches several classes at the Ackerman Institute for the Family (the oldest family institute in the United States) in NYC, is a board member of the Porter Cason Institute for the Family at Tulane University in New Orleans and is the director of training at the Center for Hope and Renewal in Greenwich, Ct. Specializing in trauma, Family EFT, and self-of-the-therapist issues, George is committed to bringing EFT to underprivileged populations and pushing the leading edge of effective therapy. George hopes his books True Connection, Sacred Stress and Emotionally Focused Family Therapy contributes to the EFT movement of making our world a more secure place.


**Continuing Education Credit is pending through the New England Association for Family and Systemic Therapy (NEAFAST) on behalf of the Massachusetts Board of Registration of Allied Mental Health & Human Services Professions, for LMFT professional continuing education.

**Continuing Education Credit is pending through Commonwealth Educational Seminars for the following professions:

  • Psychologists:
    Commonwealth Educational Seminars is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Commonwealth Educational Seminars maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
  • Licensed Professional Counselors/Licensed Mental Health Counselors:
    Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is entitled to award continuing education credit for Licensed Professional Counselors/Licensed Mental Health Counselors. Please visit CES CE CREDIT to see all states that are covered for LPCs/LMHCs. CES maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
  • Social Workers:
    Commonwealth Educational Seminars (CES) is entitled to award continuing education credit for Social Workers. Please visit CES CE CREDIT to see all states that are covered for Social Workers. CES maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

Please note: It is the participant’s responsibility to check with their individual state boards to verify CE requirements for their state.

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