When: Friday & Saturday, March 4-5, 2022, 9am-5pm EDT
Where: Smith College Conference Center, 49 College Lane, Northampton, MA*
Instructor: George Faller, MS, LMFT
Level: Intermediate, for EFT Clinicians
Rates: Super Early Bird Rate for NEEFT Members before 9/25/21 – $400; Early Bird Rate before 12/3/21 – $425; Full Rate – $450; Student Rate available upon request
CEs: 12 CEs pending for LMFTs, LICSWs, LMHCs, and Lic. Psychologists
Additional Fee for CEs: $25
Target Audience: Marriage & Family Therapists, Social Workers, Mental Health Counselors, Psychologists
Level: Intermediate

Should this training proceed in-person, full vaccinations or negative test results within 72hrs will be required to participate. If we are unable to meet in person, we will convert this workshop to an online format.

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Do escalated couples make you want to quit being a therapist? Join us as we explore those moments of greatest difficulty for couples, from still-face to high reactivity to despair and rage. Learn how to keep your focus and go deeper in the face of reactivity. We’ll explore, demonstrate, practice and integrate in an interactive, experiential way. Through a combination of lecture, videotaped session samples, and exercises, participants will learn to better conceptualize EFT and to help couples recognize and deescalate problematic cycles of interaction. Participants will also learn to help couples create or restore the emotional bond between them once the negative cycle—and the attachment needs that drive it—has been understood.

At the conclusion of this program, participants will be better able to:

  1. Describe 3 underlying emotions that withdrawers feel
  2. Describe 3 underlying emotions that pursuers feel
  3. Define 3 EFT clinical skills associated with de-escalation
  4. Describe 1 function of protective strategies that create negative cycles
  5. Identify 2 aspects of the positive cycle of responsiveness to replace the escalated, negative cycle

Schedule (all times in EDT)
Day One
9-10:30am Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT
10:30-10:45am Break
10:45am-12:15pm Understanding the Function of Matching Affect
12:15-1:45pm Lunch
1:45-3:15pm Taking Charge of Session
3:15-3:30pm Break
3:30-5pm Keeping your Focus with Interruptions

Day Two
9-10:30am Going Deeper with Withdrawers
10:30-10:45am Break
10:45am-12:15pm Going Deeper with Pursuers
12:15-1:45pm Lunch
1:45-3:15pm Restructuring Emotional Bonds
3:15-3:30pm Break
3:30-5pm Celebrating the Process of Change – Tying It All Together



George Faller, MS, LMFT is a retired Lieutenant of the NYC Fire Department, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New York and Connecticut and an Approved Supervisor for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. He is the founder and President of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). As an EFT Trainer, George teaches several classes at the Ackerman Institute for the Family (the oldest family institute in the United States) in NYC, is a board member of the Porter Cason Institute for the Family at Tulane University in New Orleans and is the director of training at the Center for Hope and Renewal in Greenwich, Ct. Specializing in trauma, Family EFT, and self-of-the-therapist issues, George is committed to bringing EFT to underprivileged populations and pushing the leading edge of effective therapy. George hopes his books True Connection, Sacred Stress and Emotionally Focused Family Therapy contributes to the EFT movement of making our world a more secure place.

*This in-person workshop was originally scheduled for Saturday & Sunday, October 23 & 24, 2020, then rescheduled for November 6 & 7, 2021 due to COVID-19.

This activity is approved certification by the New England Association for Family and Systemic Therapy (NEAFAST) on behalf of the Massachusetts Board of Registration of Allied Mental Health & Human Services Professions for LMFT professional continuing education.

This activity is pending certification by the The Massachusetts Mental Health Counselors Association (MaMHCA) on behalf of the Board of Registration of Allied Mental Health & Human Services Professions for LMHC/LPC professional continuing education.

This activity is pending certification by the The National Association of Social Workers Massachusetts Chapter (NASW-MA) on behalf of the Board of Registration of Allied Mental Health & Human Services Professions for LICSW/LCSW professional continuing education.

This activity is pending certification by Amego, Inc. (DBA Amego Prepare) on behalf of the American Psychological Association for Licensed Psychologists.


NOTE: It is the participant’s responsibility to check with their state boards to determine CE requirements and rules of reciprocity, i.e. to assess whether out-of-state and/or APA-approved certificates can be accepted.

This program is being offered independent of any commercial support or conflict of interest. Clinicians with any level of experience are welcome to participate.

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The Couple & Family Institute of New England (CFINE)’s training facilities are handicap accessible. Individuals needing special accommodations, please contact Lindsay Swan, CFINE Administrator, at (413) 341-0543 or admin@couplesandfamilyinstitute.com.